Tonight D and M got into it again at dinner. She cooked dinner and as usual he doesn’t want to eat it (5yr old). He complains and negotiates; she yells and punishes. Z got to go outside and play after dinner but M had to stay in unless he finished his meal.
After the kids were in bed we talked about it and came up with a new strategy. Eat what you want or don’t. Never complain about the food (or be punished). Must sit at the table while we all eat. If you don’t want to eat it you can have other veggies or fruit instead. After school, the only food he can eat is fruit and/or veggies. You don’t have to clean your plate.
Oh and she is planning on mixing veggies in with food they like (pureed cauliflower in mac and cheese or the like).